Comments for Joy Discovered http://joydiscovered.net Mon, 15 Mar 2010 19:31:21 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Tess The Bold Life http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1308 Tess The Bold Life Mon, 15 Mar 2010 19:31:21 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1308 My ego tempts me to focus on my weaknesses when I see the Divine in me and in you they don't exist. There in lies my work. My ego tempts me to focus on my weaknesses when I see the Divine in me and in you they don’t exist. There in lies my work.

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Joy http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1306 Joy Mon, 15 Mar 2010 01:33:53 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1306 Jodi, What an insightful post! I have a pretty fair, good take on what my strengths and weaknesses are. It's taken a while to get there. I think I surprise people with my honesty around my weaknesses. However, just because I *know* I am not good at something doesn't mean I can use it as an excuse, it just means I might need to try harder when presented with a situation where I need to use it. As far as strengths, it has been harder for me to admit/claim those. I was brought up to "dim my light" so as not to make others uncomfortable, so it's taken some time to acknowledge my strengths, and to shine. I know each talent is a gift to be shared; my life prayer is to grow those gifts to have abundance to share, and for clarity and wisdom to know what and where to appropriately share. Jodi,
What an insightful post!
I have a pretty fair, good take on what my strengths and weaknesses are. It’s taken a while to get there. I think I surprise people with my honesty around my weaknesses. However, just because I *know* I am not good at something doesn’t mean I can use it as an excuse, it just means I might need to try harder when presented with a situation where I need to use it.
As far as strengths, it has been harder for me to admit/claim those. I was brought up to “dim my light” so as not to make others uncomfortable, so it’s taken some time to acknowledge my strengths, and to shine. I know each talent is a gift to be shared; my life prayer is to grow those gifts to have abundance to share, and for clarity and wisdom to know what and where to appropriately share.

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Jodi Sloane http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1305 Jodi Sloane Sat, 13 Mar 2010 18:18:09 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1305 I love all these comments! Each one of you adds so much value to the conversation. Thank you, thank you, thank you!! I love all these comments! Each one of you adds so much value to the conversation. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by yogiclarebear http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1303 yogiclarebear Sat, 13 Mar 2010 04:13:41 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1303 Great thoughts! I'd like to add some music to this conversation! :) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z45EB4TiYz4 Great thoughts! I’d like to add some music to this conversation! :)

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Wilma Ham http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1302 Wilma Ham Thu, 11 Mar 2010 20:27:19 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1302 Hi Jodi. I love SuZen's and Chris' comments and the gist of your post. Hmm, focusing on strengths for me has for a long time felt like too complacent and that I miss out on being the best, whatever that was. It felt if I did not look at what I could improve I somehow would miss the boat to success. That it totally stopped me from using my strengths and thus missing the boat anyway had escaped me. So now it is indeed back to my strengths but ironically they have been hard to find as they have been so invisible for a long time. I do not know if it is a cultural issue, I see it everywhere. We humans are focused on lack in all areas rather than being focused on the good. Time to change it everywhere, hurray to Dan, Dr Oz and you, xox Wilma Hi Jodi.
I love SuZen’s and Chris’ comments and the gist of your post.
Hmm, focusing on strengths for me has for a long time felt like too complacent and that I miss out on being the best, whatever that was.
It felt if I did not look at what I could improve I somehow would miss the boat to success. That it totally stopped me from using my strengths and thus missing the boat anyway had escaped me.
So now it is indeed back to my strengths but ironically they have been hard to find as they have been so invisible for a long time.
I do not know if it is a cultural issue, I see it everywhere.
We humans are focused on lack in all areas rather than being focused on the good.
Time to change it everywhere, hurray to Dan, Dr Oz and you, xox Wilma

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Chris Edgar http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1300 Chris Edgar Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:09:16 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1300 Thanks for this -- playing to my strengths has definitely been my approach recently -- for a while I wasn't okay with having some "pointy-headed intellectual tendencies," and so I kind of repressed them on my main blog, but finally I gave in and started another blog to express them and I'm having a blast! Thanks for this — playing to my strengths has definitely been my approach recently — for a while I wasn’t okay with having some “pointy-headed intellectual tendencies,” and so I kind of repressed them on my main blog, but finally I gave in and started another blog to express them and I’m having a blast!

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1299 Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:46:51 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1299 Jodi, I had to read this twice because it was so good. I think I'm somewhere in the middle, too. Growing up, I've been consistently hard on myself, and I couldn't even tell you why. (I think I'm afraid to question it or go too deep... although I know it's most basic cause is the "not good enough" syndrome and fear of being unlovable every human faces.) It's hard for me to imagine not being able to do everything and do it well. Like that's an admission of inferiority. At least, that's how I judge it, and therein lies my biggest issue. I'm so critical --- and quick to be critical (which bugs me). In some cases, I knee-jerk to the weakness and totally ignore what's good & strong. But as you said, I'm missing opportunities for joy, and loving each moment of life and ME as we are, and as God intended. Perhaps I'm getting better every day, but as usual, I've noticed my shortcomings in this regard! (sigh) I'll get there... One small step at a time. ~XOXO~ Jodi, I had to read this twice because it was so good. I think I’m somewhere in the middle, too. Growing up, I’ve been consistently hard on myself, and I couldn’t even tell you why. (I think I’m afraid to question it or go too deep… although I know it’s most basic cause is the “not good enough” syndrome and fear of being unlovable every human faces.)

It’s hard for me to imagine not being able to do everything and do it well. Like that’s an admission of inferiority. At least, that’s how I judge it, and therein lies my biggest issue. I’m so critical — and quick to be critical (which bugs me). In some cases, I knee-jerk to the weakness and totally ignore what’s good & strong.

But as you said, I’m missing opportunities for joy, and loving each moment of life and ME as we are, and as God intended.

Perhaps I’m getting better every day, but as usual, I’ve noticed my shortcomings in this regard! (sigh) I’ll get there… One small step at a time.

~XOXO~

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Michelle @ Following Your Joy http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1298 Michelle @ Following Your Joy Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:23:58 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1298 Hi Jodi, This post really got me going as my work has been focused on strengths for close to 10 years! As a culture, we're good at quickly saying what we're not good at or what needs to be fixed. But research shows that the more we capitalize on our strengths--or what we're good at--that's where significant growth comes in. Focusing on my strengths has helped me tremendously in my own personal/professional journey, and it's a thrill to see how my clients' lives light up when we focus on their strengths. Besides, it 'feels' good to focus on what you're good at and what you love! Two books to recommend: "Now, Discover Your Strengths" by Marcus Buckingham & Donald Clifton (this is the one I use with my clients quite a bit) and "The Truth About You" by Marcus Buckingham. I have a link to both of them on my blog in the "Resources" section. I guarantee that anyone who reads these will feel better about themselves and the core of "who" they are. Can you see that this topic gets me all revved up?! Thanks for bringing light to this important topic! Hi Jodi,

This post really got me going as my work has been focused on strengths for close to 10 years! As a culture, we’re good at quickly saying what we’re not good at or what needs to be fixed. But research shows that the more we capitalize on our strengths–or what we’re good at–that’s where significant growth comes in.

Focusing on my strengths has helped me tremendously in my own personal/professional journey, and it’s a thrill to see how my clients’ lives light up when we focus on their strengths. Besides, it ‘feels’ good to focus on what you’re good at and what you love!

Two books to recommend: “Now, Discover Your Strengths” by Marcus Buckingham & Donald Clifton (this is the one I use with my clients quite a bit) and “The Truth About You” by Marcus Buckingham. I have a link to both of them on my blog in the “Resources” section. I guarantee that anyone who reads these will feel better about themselves and the core of “who” they are.

Can you see that this topic gets me all revved up?! Thanks for bringing light to this important topic!

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Jodi Sloane http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1297 Jodi Sloane Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:48:14 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1297 Hi Joy! Thank you so much for commenting!! Your story about Tiger Woods is spot on. I'm glad you stopped by!! Hi Peggy! I'm with you--let's both rock on with all our strengths and forget about the rest! :) P.S. I'm a big fan of Jack Canfield, too! I don't know about John Maxwell...I will have to look him up! Hi SuZen! I love how you wrote that you are evolving all the time. That's wonderful! I'm glad you hear you focus on your strengths and I love it that you are always trying new things to find other things you may be great at. Hi Ben! I think we look at this with similar eyes. Let's make a pact to both spend more time valuing our strengths and less time picking apart our weaknesses! Hi Joy!
Thank you so much for commenting!! Your story about Tiger Woods is spot on. I’m glad you stopped by!!

Hi Peggy!
I’m with you–let’s both rock on with all our strengths and forget about the rest! :) P.S. I’m a big fan of Jack Canfield, too! I don’t know about John Maxwell…I will have to look him up!

Hi SuZen!
I love how you wrote that you are evolving all the time. That’s wonderful! I’m glad you hear you focus on your strengths and I love it that you are always trying new things to find other things you may be great at.

Hi Ben!
I think we look at this with similar eyes. Let’s make a pact to both spend more time valuing our strengths and less time picking apart our weaknesses!

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Ben http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1294 Ben Tue, 09 Mar 2010 23:15:20 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1294 That's very interesting. I suppose that in the realm of talents, the old adage still holds true that the grass is always greener on the other side. I often find myself wishing I were better at certain things that I'm not naturally inclined to be good at. I suppose it's natural to give more value to things that are more difficult for you attain simply because they're more difficult. I think you're very right though, it's a part of our cultural upbringing to want to overcome perceived weaknesses. I definitely do need to spend more time being thankful for the gifts and talents I have and not worry so much about all the things I'm not very good at :) That’s very interesting. I suppose that in the realm of talents, the old adage still holds true that the grass is always greener on the other side. I often find myself wishing I were better at certain things that I’m not naturally inclined to be good at. I suppose it’s natural to give more value to things that are more difficult for you attain simply because they’re more difficult. I think you’re very right though, it’s a part of our cultural upbringing to want to overcome perceived weaknesses. I definitely do need to spend more time being thankful for the gifts and talents I have and not worry so much about all the things I’m not very good at :)

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