Comments for Joy Discovered http://joydiscovered.net Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:09:16 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Chris Edgar http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1300 Chris Edgar Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:09:16 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1300 Thanks for this -- playing to my strengths has definitely been my approach recently -- for a while I wasn't okay with having some "pointy-headed intellectual tendencies," and so I kind of repressed them on my main blog, but finally I gave in and started another blog to express them and I'm having a blast! Thanks for this — playing to my strengths has definitely been my approach recently — for a while I wasn’t okay with having some “pointy-headed intellectual tendencies,” and so I kind of repressed them on my main blog, but finally I gave in and started another blog to express them and I’m having a blast!

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1299 Megan "JoyGirl!" Bord Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:46:51 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1299 Jodi, I had to read this twice because it was so good. I think I'm somewhere in the middle, too. Growing up, I've been consistently hard on myself, and I couldn't even tell you why. (I think I'm afraid to question it or go too deep... although I know it's most basic cause is the "not good enough" syndrome and fear of being unlovable every human faces.) It's hard for me to imagine not being able to do everything and do it well. Like that's an admission of inferiority. At least, that's how I judge it, and therein lies my biggest issue. I'm so critical --- and quick to be critical (which bugs me). In some cases, I knee-jerk to the weakness and totally ignore what's good & strong. But as you said, I'm missing opportunities for joy, and loving each moment of life and ME as we are, and as God intended. Perhaps I'm getting better every day, but as usual, I've noticed my shortcomings in this regard! (sigh) I'll get there... One small step at a time. ~XOXO~ Jodi, I had to read this twice because it was so good. I think I’m somewhere in the middle, too. Growing up, I’ve been consistently hard on myself, and I couldn’t even tell you why. (I think I’m afraid to question it or go too deep… although I know it’s most basic cause is the “not good enough” syndrome and fear of being unlovable every human faces.)

It’s hard for me to imagine not being able to do everything and do it well. Like that’s an admission of inferiority. At least, that’s how I judge it, and therein lies my biggest issue. I’m so critical — and quick to be critical (which bugs me). In some cases, I knee-jerk to the weakness and totally ignore what’s good & strong.

But as you said, I’m missing opportunities for joy, and loving each moment of life and ME as we are, and as God intended.

Perhaps I’m getting better every day, but as usual, I’ve noticed my shortcomings in this regard! (sigh) I’ll get there… One small step at a time.

~XOXO~

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Michelle @ Following Your Joy http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1298 Michelle @ Following Your Joy Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:23:58 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1298 Hi Jodi, This post really got me going as my work has been focused on strengths for close to 10 years! As a culture, we're good at quickly saying what we're not good at or what needs to be fixed. But research shows that the more we capitalize on our strengths--or what we're good at--that's where significant growth comes in. Focusing on my strengths has helped me tremendously in my own personal/professional journey, and it's a thrill to see how my clients' lives light up when we focus on their strengths. Besides, it 'feels' good to focus on what you're good at and what you love! Two books to recommend: "Now, Discover Your Strengths" by Marcus Buckingham & Donald Clifton (this is the one I use with my clients quite a bit) and "The Truth About You" by Marcus Buckingham. I have a link to both of them on my blog in the "Resources" section. I guarantee that anyone who reads these will feel better about themselves and the core of "who" they are. Can you see that this topic gets me all revved up?! Thanks for bringing light to this important topic! Hi Jodi,

This post really got me going as my work has been focused on strengths for close to 10 years! As a culture, we’re good at quickly saying what we’re not good at or what needs to be fixed. But research shows that the more we capitalize on our strengths–or what we’re good at–that’s where significant growth comes in.

Focusing on my strengths has helped me tremendously in my own personal/professional journey, and it’s a thrill to see how my clients’ lives light up when we focus on their strengths. Besides, it ‘feels’ good to focus on what you’re good at and what you love!

Two books to recommend: “Now, Discover Your Strengths” by Marcus Buckingham & Donald Clifton (this is the one I use with my clients quite a bit) and “The Truth About You” by Marcus Buckingham. I have a link to both of them on my blog in the “Resources” section. I guarantee that anyone who reads these will feel better about themselves and the core of “who” they are.

Can you see that this topic gets me all revved up?! Thanks for bringing light to this important topic!

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Jodi Sloane http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1297 Jodi Sloane Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:48:14 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1297 Hi Joy! Thank you so much for commenting!! Your story about Tiger Woods is spot on. I'm glad you stopped by!! Hi Peggy! I'm with you--let's both rock on with all our strengths and forget about the rest! :) P.S. I'm a big fan of Jack Canfield, too! I don't know about John Maxwell...I will have to look him up! Hi SuZen! I love how you wrote that you are evolving all the time. That's wonderful! I'm glad you hear you focus on your strengths and I love it that you are always trying new things to find other things you may be great at. Hi Ben! I think we look at this with similar eyes. Let's make a pact to both spend more time valuing our strengths and less time picking apart our weaknesses! Hi Joy!
Thank you so much for commenting!! Your story about Tiger Woods is spot on. I’m glad you stopped by!!

Hi Peggy!
I’m with you–let’s both rock on with all our strengths and forget about the rest! :) P.S. I’m a big fan of Jack Canfield, too! I don’t know about John Maxwell…I will have to look him up!

Hi SuZen!
I love how you wrote that you are evolving all the time. That’s wonderful! I’m glad you hear you focus on your strengths and I love it that you are always trying new things to find other things you may be great at.

Hi Ben!
I think we look at this with similar eyes. Let’s make a pact to both spend more time valuing our strengths and less time picking apart our weaknesses!

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Ben http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1294 Ben Tue, 09 Mar 2010 23:15:20 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1294 That's very interesting. I suppose that in the realm of talents, the old adage still holds true that the grass is always greener on the other side. I often find myself wishing I were better at certain things that I'm not naturally inclined to be good at. I suppose it's natural to give more value to things that are more difficult for you attain simply because they're more difficult. I think you're very right though, it's a part of our cultural upbringing to want to overcome perceived weaknesses. I definitely do need to spend more time being thankful for the gifts and talents I have and not worry so much about all the things I'm not very good at :) That’s very interesting. I suppose that in the realm of talents, the old adage still holds true that the grass is always greener on the other side. I often find myself wishing I were better at certain things that I’m not naturally inclined to be good at. I suppose it’s natural to give more value to things that are more difficult for you attain simply because they’re more difficult. I think you’re very right though, it’s a part of our cultural upbringing to want to overcome perceived weaknesses. I definitely do need to spend more time being thankful for the gifts and talents I have and not worry so much about all the things I’m not very good at :)

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by suzen http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1293 suzen Tue, 09 Mar 2010 21:06:25 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1293 Hi Joydi! Boy no kidding we focus on lack in sooo many areas! I kicked that bad habit by regularly celebrating my talents/gifts - the stuff I'm good at - and I keep trying NEW stuff all the time so I can add to list of accomplishments. Anything I don't do well, well, I just tell myself I tried and move on. I used to call this obsession with self-improvement Divine Discontent and I filled journal after journal over the years with wanting to be better, bashing myself for not being a better mom/wife/friend til I'd reduce myself to this pathetic sniveling wreck, all depressed because I never thought I'd be "enough" or "good enough". I'd rush out and get the latest book trying anything to make me ok with me. A lot of time and energy pretty much wasted! So I look back on all that now and think how terribly unkind I was to me. I am the best I can be, I'm evolving all the time, growing, learning and I love all that ---- and me. I don't "listen" to that perfectionist monkey. Hope you won't either! Love and accept you and realize perfect is for the Divine, not us. Hugs suZen Hi Joydi! Boy no kidding we focus on lack in sooo many areas! I kicked that bad habit by regularly celebrating my talents/gifts – the stuff I’m good at – and I keep trying NEW stuff all the time so I can add to list of accomplishments. Anything I don’t do well, well, I just tell myself I tried and move on.

I used to call this obsession with self-improvement Divine Discontent and I filled journal after journal over the years with wanting to be better, bashing myself for not being a better mom/wife/friend til I’d reduce myself to this pathetic sniveling wreck, all depressed because I never thought I’d be “enough” or “good enough”. I’d rush out and get the latest book trying anything to make me ok with me. A lot of time and energy pretty much wasted!

So I look back on all that now and think how terribly unkind I was to me. I am the best I can be, I’m evolving all the time, growing, learning and I love all that —- and me. I don’t “listen” to that perfectionist monkey. Hope you won’t either! Love and accept you and realize perfect is for the Divine, not us.
Hugs
suZen

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Peggy Nolan http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1292 Peggy Nolan Tue, 09 Mar 2010 15:49:58 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1292 Jodi, This is such an amazing lesson to learn - I'm a huge fan of Daniel Pink and Dr. Oz. Maybe five years ago now I heard this same message from both John Maxwell and Jack Canfield at a business conference. So it's really nice to revisit it right now in my life! When I peer into my weaknesses, I tend to beat myself up - "I should be doing this better" or "I should be more attentive to that." All the while letting my strengths rust or remain stagnant. Enough of that already :-) I'm ready to rock on with all my strengths and accept what my weaknesses are and instead of me trying to do it *all* and failing, I will boldly go where my strengths take me and not worry too much about the rest... xo Peggy Jodi,

This is such an amazing lesson to learn – I’m a huge fan of Daniel Pink and Dr. Oz.

Maybe five years ago now I heard this same message from both John Maxwell and Jack Canfield at a business conference. So it’s really nice to revisit it right now in my life!

When I peer into my weaknesses, I tend to beat myself up – “I should be doing this better” or “I should be more attentive to that.” All the while letting my strengths rust or remain stagnant.

Enough of that already :-) I’m ready to rock on with all my strengths and accept what my weaknesses are and instead of me trying to do it *all* and failing, I will boldly go where my strengths take me and not worry too much about the rest…

xo
Peggy

]]> Comment on Strengths and Weaknesses by Joy http://joydiscovered.net/2010/03/09/strengths-and-weaknesses/#comment-1291 Joy Tue, 09 Mar 2010 15:31:15 +0000 http://joydiscovered.net/?p=1523#comment-1291 You are SO RIGHT. We totally focus on our weaknesses, but it's a terrible strategy for living an abundant life. You may have heard this anecdote (don't know if it's true) but it's one of my favorites. Tiger Woods (not a great husband, but a great golfer, right?) always has his games carefully video taped. An interviewer once said, "That's so smart. That way you can see exactly what went wrong." Tiger replied, "Why woud I look at what I did wrong? I'm looking to see what I did RIGHT so I can repeat it." I've tried to mimic this sentiment in my life. Ignore the perceived weaknesses and build upon strenghts. At the very least, it's a lot more fun! You are SO RIGHT. We totally focus on our weaknesses, but it’s a terrible strategy for living an abundant life. You may have heard this anecdote (don’t know if it’s true) but it’s one of my favorites. Tiger Woods (not a great husband, but a great golfer, right?) always has his games carefully video taped. An interviewer once said, “That’s so smart. That way you can see exactly what went wrong.” Tiger replied, “Why woud I look at what I did wrong? I’m looking to see what I did RIGHT so I can repeat it.” I’ve tried to mimic this sentiment in my life. Ignore the perceived weaknesses and build upon strenghts. At the very least, it’s a lot more fun!

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